Will you turn into a Godzilla in rage?

Assalamualaikum brothers and sisters.

One word to discuss: Anger.

We all know what anger is, and we've all felt it; whether as a fleeting annoyance or as full-fledged rage.

Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems—problems at work, in your personal relationships, and even in the overall quality of your life.

So, everything will be depending on how you handle your anger, and where you vented out your anger.Will you still be a cool person or will you turn into a Godzilla in rage?

The Facebook.

This social media, Facebook is the famous medium nowadays for people to venting out their displeasure, irritation, rage, anger, vexation, irks, wrath, fury, annoyance and what-so-ever words related to the word anger.

Are you one of them?

I, personally think it is not professional at all.
Using the caps lock, and doubling tripling the exclamation marks.

Sometimes, I just want to reply,
"Hey. It is not you the only one who can do the caps lock. I CAN DO IT TOO."

But, of course, that statement will only come from a hatred emotional heart.

Rasulullah S.A.W. taught us, to not have any vengeful thoughts, for we are taught to forgive those who have been hostile towards us.

We should be shameful, for whatever things we have wrote during the time when we were angry. Read it back.

Sometimes, when people are mad over something, they can't think straight. Whatever came to their mind, will be only perceptions, and own thoughts.

In fact, perceptions are never true. What we see with our eyes, is never true, until we confront it. Why do we made such perception and thought, and then, being mad and all without knowing or even asking for the truth?

We'll think we are right, but in fact, we're making ourselves look so pitiful.

Posting our anger on Facebook, will done nothing. Not only we'll hurt those we've mentioned, we've also humiliated them, and in other words, we've shown the world that we've did some stupid act with our ignorance.

More importantly,
What are we? A coward?
Posting our anger to someone on Facebook, WITHOUT confronting with him/her first?
That's a coward to me.

If we really are 'concern' about that particular person, go and meet him/her DIRECTLY on the face.
Ask them why is this and why is that.
Doing the talks behind them will done nothing.

We should change.
It's so easy to judge others, but, it's so hard to judge ourselves.

Any questions?

Islam has the answer for everything, insyaAllah.

“What Rasulullah said about anger?”

Reported by Abu Hurairah (RA): A man asked the Prophet (peace be upon him) to give him advice, and he (peace be upon him) said, “Do not get angry.” The man repeated that several times and he (peace be upon him) replied (every time), “Do not get angry.”

[Bukhari]

“But, what if I can’t control my anger?”

Reported by Abu Hurairah (RA): Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said, “The strong man is not the one who wrestles, but the strong man is in fact the one who controls himself in a fit of rage.”

[Bukhari& Muslim]

“How to control my anger then?”

Narated By AbuDharr : The Apostle of Allah (peace be upon him) said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.

[Abu Dawud]

“What ‘s in there for me if I am able to control my anger?”

Reported by Mu`adh bin Anas (RA): The Prophet (peace be upon him) said, "The one who suppresses anger and has the power to give effect to it, will be called out by Allah, the Exalted, to the forefront of the creatures on the Day of Resurrection and he will be asked to choose any of the virgins (Hur) of his liking".

[Abu Dawud and At-Tirmidhi]

All of us certainly have the ability to change.

It’s the strong will that’ll start the spark of changing. Let’s 2015 be the year of change.

Wallahualam.

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Let's Shoot Down The Worries - Part 1

Assalamualaikum and hello to all readers of this blog.

May Allah bless all of you.

Do you like to read?

If you are, then we are a comrade. I too do love reading. Reading is a great habit. Not only it is a great thing to do during leisure time, but it can improve our knowledge too. It’s true that we are all science-based students, but that does not mean we have no time to read novel, book, and newspaper right? Haha.

So, what kind of genre do you like to read? Fantasy? Romance? Historical?Motivational?Religious? I know every one of us has their own preference of book’s genre.

As for me, one of my favourite genres is motivational.

As a student of Universiti Kebangsaan Malaysia, we will always busy with co-curricular activities and programmes as to finish off our HC and to gain merits for college. So, we will interact with a lot of different types of people, and to deal with enormous types of problems. This will lead to stress.

Some of us will have problem on how to deal with stress. In the end, it will cause depression, disappointment, hatred, anger, unstable emotion and a lot of other negative attitudes towards one self and also others.

So, I would like to share some of the contents of this one book titled, “The Power of Positive Thinking” written by Norman Vincent Peale.

The main point of this book is “the Bible is the one that can give you peace”. I think that thought is interesting, so I gave it a shot because I would like to know if I can convert the statement into “the Quran is the one that can give you peace”.

1. The author starts with his life story.

He said, he doesn’treally read Bible, but one day when he went to a hotel, he read the Bible provided in the hotel room. So, after reading it, he bought a small Bible for him to read anywhere, but he will not read it in front others in public, because he did not want to be thought holy or pious.

Now that is interesting, so I thought.

Later on, he changed, and now, he brings it out on trains and planes to read.

Interesting, isn’t it? Let’s relate this story with us, the-so-called Muslims.

In our society, it is really rare to find a Muslim to bring out the Quran in the public, just because they don’t like people looking at them, and thought they are some kind of a holy or pious believer. I think, we should be ashamed to call ourselves a Muslim, if we are afraid to be looking holy or pious when we does something Islamic or related to our believe, our religion.

And so, I would like to conclude, that Al-Quran is the one that can give you peace.

2.  Worry??

Worry is simply an unhealthy and destructive mental habit.

The author of this book shared about a story of a man that had his own way of overcoming worry.

That man said, “Every morning, I spend 15 minutes filling my mind full of God”. “When your mind is full of God, there is no room for worry. I fill my mind full of God every day and I have the time of my life all day long.”

Okay, so the story above is about a Christian man. He believes in his God, so, why can’t we do the same for ours?

We say Islam is the best religion, but do we even have Allah in our thought and mind when we are worried?

Simply ask yourself.

Other statements from the book are,

“Worry is a destructive process of occupying the mind with thoughts contrary to God’s love and care. Basically, that is all worry is”.

“The cure is to fill the mind with thoughts of God’s power, His protection and His goodness.”

So, basically, Allah is the source of peace. If you put Allah ahead of your worry, surely your worry will be out of your mind.

3. The power of positive thinking

Below, I will list some of the statements in the book that once gave me a shot straight to the brain.

i. STAMP a mental picture of yourself as succeeding! So, always picture ‘success’ no matter how badly things seem to be going at the moment.

ii. Negative thought come in?? VOICE OUT a positive thought to CANCEL it out!

iii. Do not build up OBSTACLE in your imagination. Depreciate, minimise them!

iv. Nobody can be you as efficiently as you can.

v. Repeat this word; “If God is with me, who can be against me!”

vi. Remind yourself, that God is with you, and nothing can defeat you.

Those are some positive statements right? Especially when we put Allah in our thought, we will be strong.

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I would like to share the worry-breaking formula and some guide to the way of happiness I got from this book, but I guess this post is long enough.

So, let’s stay tune for Part 2!

Let’s embrace the positive attitudes, and do your best in club activities and study!

Never give up, because Allah is right here in your heart.

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ENJOY YOUR LIFE

You sit with someone who is twenty years old and notice that he has particular etiquette, logic and thought.
You then sit with him when he is thirty to discover that he is exactly the way he was ten years ago and has not improved at all.
Yet, you sit with others and you feel that they are actually taking benefit from their lives.

You discover that they improve themselves on a daily basis. In fact, not an hour passes except that they improve either religiously or otherwise. If you wish to ponder upon the different types of people with respect to self-improvement, then think about the following: 

There are those who like to watch those satellite television channels that help their general knowledge and intelligence grow. They benefit from other people’s experiences by watching constructive discussions, from which they learn the characteristics of debating and improve their language, understanding, and expertise in debate and persuasion. Then there are those who cannot miss out on a series about a failed love story, or an emotional play, or a horror film, or films about useless fantasies with no link to reality at all.

Notice the difference between the two after five or ten years. 

Which of the two would have improved the most in his skills and ability to fathom information, gain general knowledge, have the power to convince others, or successfully be able to cope with diverse situations? 

No doubt the first person! You will find the mannerisms of the first person to be completely different. When he argues, he does so on the basis of legal references, facts and figures, while the second can only quote the words of actors and singers, so much so that one such person once said during a discussion, “Allah says: ‘Strive, my servant, and I shall strive with you!’’

We informed him that this is not a verse from the Qur’an. His complexion changed and he fell silent. I then thought about the phrase and it occurred to me that it is an Egyptian idiom which was imprinted on his mind after watching a drama series! Let’s look at it from another angle-that of reading newspapers and magazines.

How many people take an interest in reading beneficial news and information that helps them in developing their personality, improves their skills and increases their general knowledge? Yet, how many are those who cannot read except sports and entertainment news? This is true to such an extent that many newspapers compete with each other by increasing the sports and entertainment pages at the cost of other sections. The same can be said about our gatherings and the things in which we spend our time.

Hence, if you would like to be a head instead of a tail, then eagerly try to practice all skills, regardless of what they may be. Below is a story about ‘Abdullah, who was an energetic person but lacking in certain skills.

One day, he left his home to pray Dhuhr in the mosque. It was his zeal for the prayer and respect for his religion which brought him out to pray. He was walking fast in order to reach the mosque before the Iqamah was given. On his way, he passed by a date palm tree on top of which there was a man in uniform,working on the tree.

‘Abdullah became surprised and thought, “Who is this man that does not care about the prayer! It is as if he didn’t even hear the Adhan, or doesn’t care about the Iqamah, which is about to go!” He shouted in anger, “Get down and pray!” The man responded coldly, “OK, OK...” He said, again, “Hurry up and pray, you donkey!” The man screamed, “You called me a donkey?!” He then took a branch of the tree and descended in order to hit him over the head with it! ‘Abdullah hid his face with his headscarf so the man wouldn’t recognise him and went on to the mosque. The man descended from the tree in anger, went to his house, prayed and rested for a while. He then returned to the tree to finish his job.

Then ‘Asr time came and ‘Abdullah went to the mosque again. On his way he passed by the same tree and noticed the same man working. He decided to change his method altogether and said, ‘Assalamu ‘alaykum! How are you?” 

The man replied, “Alhamdulillah, I am fine!” 

He said, “Give me some good news. How are the dates this year?” 

The man said, “AlHamdulillah.” 

‘Abdullah said, “May Allah give you success and provision, make your life easy for you, and not deprive you of the reward for your work!” 

The man was overjoyed at hearing this supplication and said ameen to the prayer.

‘Abdullah then said, “It seems that you are so preoccupied with work that perhaps you didn’t notice the Adhan for ‘Asr prayer. The Adhan has been called and the Iqamah is about to be given. Perhaps you should get down, relax a little and get readyfor prayer. After the prayer you can get on with your work again. May Allah keep you healthy.” 

The man said, “InshaAllah... InshaAllah...” and began to descend gently.

He then turned to ‘Abdullah, shook his hand warmly and said, “I would like to thank you for your excellent manners. As for the one who passed by me at Dhuhr time, I wish I could see him and show him who the real donkey is!”

Reference:

Book Title: Enjoy Your Life by Muhammad Adb Al-Rahman Al-Arifim

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